Scapegoat Recovery Through Personal Development Coaching

Hey there! I’m Art Florentyna.

You can call me Art! I’m a personal development coach specializing in the challenges faced by scapegoated survivors from narcissistic family dynamics.

Here’s the truth, the problem is not you. You don’t need to constantly change who you are to be loved and have healthy and safe relationships in your life. Instead, I invite you to learn to prioritize your own needs without guilt, and to accept yourself as you are. Let’s work together to dismantle limiting beliefs, leave the past behind, and build a life filled with peace, security and freedom. You deserve it.

The Experience Of The Family Scapegoat

Do You Feel

  • Consistently unseen, unheard, with your traumatic experiences being dismissed, trivialised or treated as insignificant in the "bigger picture" by the rest of the family.
  • Being told you "don't love or care" for your family when setting healthy boundaries or healthily asserting your individuality.
  • Facing constant pressure from the family to "change who you are" in order to appease a family member who persistently targets and antagonises you.
  • Having family members label your reactions to dysfunction or abuse as indicative of a flawed personality or “bad character.”
  • Feeling confused as "good moments" are used to leverage, justify or normalise ongoing dysfunction and abuse in the family.
  • Being shamed or discouraged from talking about your experiences or voicing your trauma. “What happens at home stays at home”.
  • Having family members betray you when your abuser is in the room.
  • Having to constantly defend or argue the validity of your trauma against accusations, falsified stories, and exaggerated claims made by your abuser.
  • Feeling isolated, alone, and misunderstood within your family dynamics.
  • Being blamed and punished for conflicts you did not initiate or when defending yourself against unjust accusations.
  • Being smeared by your abuser, leading to collective bullying and exclusion by family and friends.
  • Having your achievements belittled or dismissed, and being labelled as unintelligent, unstable, or overly emotional.
  • Feeling pressured to conform to unrealistic family expectations, sacrificing your emotional well-being and safety to maintain your status as a "family member."
  • Experiencing unequal treatment compared to other family members, such as siblings.
  • Feeling obligated from childhood to cater to an adult's emotional needs and being shamed or punished for your inability to do so.
  • Being silenced, ignored, or shut down when attempting to address family issues or express your feelings.
  • Experiencing bullying behaviors, including various forms of abuse, which are enabled, reinforced or ignored by the family.
  • Having your reactions to trauma met with dismissiveness, such as eye-rolling or treating your emotions as mere “tantrums for attention”.
  • Experiencing profound sadness, grief, and persistent self-doubt about your worth and reality.

12-Week Scapegoat Recovery and Personal Development Program

This comprehensive program guides you through understanding the impact of scapegoating on your nervous system, recognizing triggers, and shedding toxic guilt. You’ll learn to dismantle limiting beliefs, set healthy boundaries, and live in alignment with your core values. Embrace your character strengths, balance different life aspects, and cultivate self-care practices for holistic well-being.

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1:1 Coaching and Deep Listening Session

In our one-on-one coaching sessions, you are the sole focus. My aim is to create a safe and validating space where you can genuinely express yourself without fear of judgment. Together, we’ll prioritize your needs, nurturing healing, and fostering personal growth.

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